Do You Feel Like You Are The Only One Struggling?

by Nicole Mangina on March 31, 2011

Whenever business is slow I always feel like I am the ONLY one having a hard time.  Every one else seems to be buzzing around the office with all sorts of activity and I feel like I am being left behind.

I was on a training call with a group of people yesterday and we were working with a marketing coach.  Everyone was checking in at the beginning of the call and each person seemed to be having great breakthroughs as a result of the class.  When it was my turn to check in I was honest and said that I was having a hard time diving in to the materials because I am working on developing some new mentorship programs and I’m really uncomfortable right now.  It’s all new territory and I can’t see the bigger picture right now to know exactly where it will lead.  I know in my heart that I can get there, but for someone who usually has things pretty well mapped out it is very uncomfortable to not know how this is all going to play out.   It is also hard to listen to everyone else soar in their business when I feel like I am floundering.  I am committed to not giving up.  I will stay in the discomfort and keep moving forward knowing that clarity is on it’s way.  The funny thing is that as soon as I acknowledged that I am uncomfortable everyone else started chiming in that they feel the SAME way.  It actually took the call to a new level because now we had the chance to be honest rather than posturing the whole time about how great we are.

Struggling is a Good News / Bad News / Good News thing.

The first Good News:
We ALL struggle.  Just at different times.  You are not alone.

Bad News:
Struggle is inevitable if you are committed to any type of growth and change in your life.  I’m not implying that life is hard and you should get used to everything sucking all the time.  I’m talking about the fact that we are all human and as our lives evolve there are things we need to work through.

More Good News:
Do not give up.  In the moment it may feel impossible, but moving past the struggle may be easier than you realize.  Reach out to a friend or colleague for ideas and support.  Commit to showing up every day 100% and working through it.  Commit to being uncomfortable for a while.  Try a new approach.  Invest in yourself, take a class or hire a coach to get you through it.  Admittedly when we are struggling it is hard to see the next step.  Having someone else there to guide you can make it easier to move through it.

How do you work through your struggles?  Leave a comment in the section below and let me know your favorite tricks for when you are struggling.

Wishing you much success!
Nicole

Be Sociable, Share!

{ 1 comment… read it below or add one }

Erin Hoppe April 2, 2011 at 5:33 pm

You’re so awesome Nicole!! Always love to read your ‘stuff’ and you always inspire me. Thank you for always being so positive….even when you don’t feel like it. Can’t wait to hear all about your trip when you get back 🙂

[Reply]

Reply

Leave a Comment

Previous post:

Next post: